Moving On Is Hard To Do

Moving On Is Hard To Do

How To Transition

Hello Dear Members!

We had a request for recommendations on “how to move on”!

For me, I see it as a part of the “letting go” and “shedding” practices. Non-Attachment.

What gets in the way of letting something go?

  1. Expectations
  2. Memory
  3. Clinging

Life is cycles within cycles right? We are simply recycling old stuff in new ways and patterns. Energy is energy.

Until you make a real shift in your own energy field, you will remain in the field of recycling old habits, bringing up similar situations, and magnetizing similar people.

Now, let’s start in a somewhat easier scenario: The Job.

Categories are:

  1. Let Go
  2. Pushed Out
  3. New Opportunity
  4. Retiring
  5. Changing Fields
  6. Self-Employed to Corporate Employment
  7. Demotion

How to deal with any/all of the above? (And I’m not just talking about saying you are fine when you are not and your gut is in knots and your self worth is in the toilet and you are scared.)

  1. Run Away and Hide
  2. Fake It Until You Make It
  3. Be Brave and Find Acceptance

Yes, I know, so easy to say, F#@k those guys. And walk away…. or is it?

  1. It hurts.
  2. You might be embarrassed.
  3. Your self-confidence might be low.
  4. You are in a tail spin with your thoughts, emotions, and perhaps-finances.

So… it’s time to control your reactions and emotions. It’s an amazing time to practice YOGA!;) And, no, I’m not talking about taking a lot of fitness classes. hahah!

  1. Visualize- Yourself- Happy. Loving Kindness Meditation every morning
  2. Write down your dreams.
  3. Can’t sleep? Listen to an uplifting podcast which helps you “see” and “know” reality. (Ask me for suggestions if you need)
  4. Journal
  5. Talk to someone- friend, therapist, guide.
  6. Go for walks
  7. Network- Reconnect with Real Friends/Colleagues.

The Yoga Sutras literally tell us that Memory is an impediment to happiness. I am going to substitute Happiness for Success here.

When you recreate the dramas of the office in your mind, you inflict not only pain over and over again, BUT, you stay stuck IN that energy field. And, therefore, you can NOT begin a new chapter. There is no way you can maintain toxic thoughts for old co-workers, job situations, projects, and office politics AND move on. It is, literally, impossible.

Does that mean that there is nothing to glean or learn from past mistakes, or situations, or dealings with people. Absolutely not. It’s just a skill called Right Seeing. Nothing is one sided. And in business where we are supposed to shut off our emotions nothing is personal…. well… come on… we are all human and of course we take things personally. But, in taking on the toxicity of events and people and situations, we also cause harm and feel harmed in the process of doing business.

So, what I am suggesting here (and please tell me if I am wrong), is to take the vertical approach which I mentioned in my live FB feed from yesterday. Use your connection to a higher source keep you clear in the head and moving from the heart.

In the heat of the moments, it’s going to be nearly impossible to do this 100% of the time, so it’s going to have to be this:

Do Your Best. Let Go of the Rest. Clean Up the Mess. Kick off the Dust. Rise Again.

A bit wordy and long, I know. But, hey, what can we do. We are only human after all. Give yourself a break. Start over. You can do just that. Over and over. Start. Restart. Each time from a new energy!

Every time you are given the opportunity to start over, you are given a blessing.

Reshape. Refigure. Redo.

Not to get some end result you have in your mind.

But, to FEEL GOOD about DOING GOOD WORK.

No one likes the uncertainty of such an existence. That’s why we have such toxic work environments. And that’s why there is so much pain in the world.

Be brave everyone. Be Bright!

Add to the love, not the chaos. Walk away when it’s time. Stay until it’s time. Do your best to always seek resolution and harmony. Find a better way.

Sending massive love,

CSO

“Rather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about taking a good look.”
Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

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